EXCERPT from KAT ATTACK by Katherine Umberger
Published in the November 23rd issue of Vivacini! To experience a “real magazine”, read the article in the flipping book version here: Vivacini! 23 November 2012.
My daughter wants to date a boy who is 21 years old and
she is only 16. What can I possibly say to her to change her
mind? I am beside myself!
Dear “Too Young”
It is a real challenge to convince a teenage mind
of anything if they don’t want to hear it. First,
you should check the laws of the state where you
live to understand exactly what the law dictates
regarding minors and adults dating. Most states
consider it illegal for a minor to date an adult.
Have a calm discussion with your daughter to
fi nd out exactly why she wants to date this young
man. Be prepared to listen, hear her out and try
not to argue—you are doing your research and
need to take the time to gather your information.
It will be easier for you to counter her decision
with logic and reason if you can make an informed
argument against her reasons for dating
an older man. Th e major point is that your daughter
is simply not mature enough to make this kind
No matter what her reasons, at the age of 16
your daughter should be focused on school, her
friends and extra-curricular activities, NOT worrying
about who she would like to date. Try to
support her by encouraging positive life choices
such as being involved with friends and activities.
She has plenty of time for dating later in life when
she has had more time to discover who she is.
Expect for your daughter to respond that she
feels you are being unfair and that you just don’t
want her to be happy—be prepared for the teenage
drama to hit the fan. Stay strong!
Tell her you will support her in dating someone
her own age, not a relationship but just a fun date.
Try to help her see that she doesn’t need to be focused
on a heavy relationship right now
Be sure to read the rest of the story in the flipping book version here: Vivacini! 23 November 2012.